Wife Trophy

There is much people that talk about finding a "Trophy Wife". When I think it should be other way around. Men should get a trophy for finding a wife.

It's so difficult to find that someone in your life that you connect with. It's such a busy world and people spend so much time working or spending it watching tv or online, that there is little time to devote to finding that special someone.

There are so many women out there that would be perfect wives. So just finding a wife deserves a trophy. Either women are not ready to commit, or they are in relationship that stops them from looking around.

There is a huge percent of people in the world, that feel they never want to get married. This makes it difficult for those that are ready and want to settle down.

Finding someone with common interests, same morals, and would be a best friend, is hard to find. You may feel same way. Well, you're not alone. Thousands of people that are serious about finding a wife or a husband find it hard to connect with someone that would be marriage material.

I Need Dating Advice

Ok, so I have a dating blog and write about dating, but I can't seem find a date myself. I know that a lot of people are looking for dating advice, and I'm one of them.

I've been trying to give dating advice to people on this blog that I write, and I hope it's good advice. I enjoy writing about the subject and I can see why people that write novels enough writing about romance or what not.

Reality is much different than fiction, and while I feel I'm ok at writing about dating, it's much different to actually find someone to date. I could talk about myself and think of excuses why I can't find someone to date, but I don't want to. I want to listen to what people have to say.

I'm sure I'm not the only one that writes about something they don't fully understand. I also think that dating, relationships, love, ect is a complex subject.

I know that this post may seem pathetic because I have a blog about dating and I myself can't find a date. Well, I guess I am pathetic. Anyway, I'm looking for some tips.

Best Pick-Up Lines

According to a study the best pick-up line is "hi" and a "smile". This makes sense. It seems to work fine. The study was something I read from an edu site a long time ago, but I forget where. The simple fact, is that pick-up lines just don't work. Of course, there many be an exception, but the odds are against you. You are far better off, just trying be a normal person and starting a conversation that is unique. If you hear a pick-up line from someone, you never know if they have told it to many other people. However, if you memorize a lot of pick-up lines, you can just keep saying them. If you say a lot of pick-up lines to a person, surely it will make them smile. Just have also say normal things too. You don't want just keep saying pick-up lines to a person forever, that will make them want go away from you.

Saying pick-up lines is equal to saying a joke. If you are comedian and you know lots of jokes, it might work. If you know a lot of pick-up lines, it might work also. The study that "Hi" is best pick-up line, who knows what those college kids really know. Sure, it might be best from a percentage point of keeping conversation going, but really, did those students really test it, and how did they test this. Surely they did not go out themselves and do testing.

So my best advice for pick-up lines, is too not say them at all. Just be funny in your own way. Jokes are not really funny. Pick-up lines are not really funny. You are funny. Just be yourself and be funny, because you can be funny yourself, without the help of jokes and pick-up lines. You are naturally funny in your own way, by saying a joke or pick-up line that someone else has used, that's not you. Be you. You are really funny person! Just prove it.

Anyway, for the sake of fun-ness, I'll list a pick-up line that is funny to me. If you say it, it will make you both smile, but then you are stuck at sqare one. "Hi, my name is chance" Waits for response. "Do I have one?"

All About Eye Contact

What was that saying before? Eyes are the heart of the soul? Maybe it's true. Eye contact can be both good and bad. Let's say, for example, you are out at a bar, and staring at someone you like, but she or he does not look at you at all. That's bad. Now if you are talking with someone and they are looking at your eyes and you are also looking at their eyes, then that's good. If you each are making eye contact with eachother, it doesn't really matter what is said to eachother. You can just ramble on about nothing and know what you are saying and what you are thinking are completely seperate entities.

Now if you stop talking to eachother, then you should stop staring at eachother. However, you should try keep conversation going, just say random things and this will make things go much more smoothly. You don't want others that are watching y'all, look at you, and see you having eye contact with eachother but not talking. You should continue talking, just keep talking, and talking, and you can continue to look at eachother without anyone thinking that it's odd. Words will say one thing and eyes will say something else. You just need keep things casual and continue talking and keeping eye contact.

However, if you are having conversation, and there is no mutual eye contact, do not try to make it work. If it doesn't work, then don't worry about it. Maybe they are having bad day or just not interested in you. Maybe they aren't comfortable.

I'm talking about the times that people do give you eye contact. When this happens, don't be shy. Share eye contact and look at eachother. It's ok. Just continue conversation and words will just come out naturally, and you'll be fine. Don't think that you should always introduce yourself at the start either. It's ok to have long conversation without saying your names. It's alright. Just talk and share eachother's eye contact. Things will be alright. To start conversation, you can just say hi, but I think it's possible you can be a bit more creative. Something like, Hi, I like your .... or something. That's better.

Why Bloggers are the Best Lovers

Bloggers are clearly the best lovers. Why do I think so? There is perfectly good explanation why this is true.

Communication is the key to any good relationship. Open-ness and Honesty and Freedom to speak what's on your heart. Bloggers write a lot and just talk about whatever is on their mind. They have experience is talking and talking and know that everything they say may not make sense to everyone, but it makes sense to them, sometimes.

So what is the point of all this. If you don't have a blog you may want to get one. It will help you become a better lover by expressing yourself to others and getting feedback. The more you write the more you listen, and in turn become a better lover. Whether or not you already have someone, it's going to help you, no matter what.

I've done my research, now you do yours. You'll find out what I meant and what I said is absolutely true. So if you are single you may consider finding a blogger. If you are not single, you may consider becoming a blogger. This will sure spark up things for you. I really think it's true.

Bloggers are using MyBlogLog to find Life Partners

What is a blogger? It's someone that loves to write on their blog. There is a new website called MyBlogLog that makes a great setting for making friends with other bloggers that like to blog as much as they do. This website is becoming increasingly popular. It's not just website for bloggers, anyone can use it. Many people that don't enjoy blogging still love to read other blogs. Although it's unclear if anyone really uses mybloglog to find other life partners, it does make excellent setting for this.

If you enjoy spending time at the lake, you will meet others that enjoy this if you just hang out at the lake. This can be applied to many other activities, but with blogging, there aren't many options out in the public. So this is why Mybloglog is a good setting for this. Finally bloggers have found a place where they can feel at home.

Bloggers are people that blog a lot and love it. Some bloggers blog more than others. But for some, blogging is a big part of their lives, and this website MyBlogLog is a great way to find others that are as passionate about blogging.

Valentine's Day

Well it's valentine's day tomorrow. So I felt compelled to write something about it. I'm writing this post mainly for date ideas for people that have a relationship and need something fun to do on valentine's day. The rest of you can go out looking for a pontential valentine for next year, because I'm sure the air will be full of love. Just wear a pink hat or something to get attention.

Hey, it's valentine's day and it's supposed to be extra special, not just another day. So here we go. These are all just options, not saying they all need be done.

* Breakfast in bed. A great start for any valentine's day. You can pick up breakfast at your favorite diner and bring it home or cook it yourself. It can either be arranged in advanced or you can surprise them.

* Lunch. Find romantic place to have lunch that you don't normally go to. If you meet eachother for lunch, then you also should bring her flowers.

* Museums. This is something you most likely do not do often. This is a great romantic date idea to do in the evening. Walk around museum and talk to eachother and look at beautiful art work.

* Meet up with Friends. Since it's valentine's day perhaps you may not want to spend too much time with friends, but you can perhaps go and meet them for a nice dinner.

* Get a Romantic Gift. Don't worry about how much you spend on the gift, just worry about how much time you spent picking it out. If you tell her it took you 2-3 hours to get it, she will be quite impressed.

* Ice Cream, Coffee, Movies. If you are going to go to a movie, since it's such normal thing to do, make sure you spice it up a little, by getting some coffee and also stopping by and getting some ice cream.

Ok, that's all the ideas I have. If you have ideas feel free to leave them here. Happy Valentine's Day!

Starting to Date Someone

Nobody can be you. You can learn things from others. You can always be polite to others and make others feel good. But you can't get always get answers from others about you. Especially when it comes to romance. You can get advice from others, if you are the listening type, but nobody is going to take over the role of being you. You have to decide what job you want, what you are going to do in your free time, and who you want to date.

It's amazing that our country is based upon freedom of speech, yet so few people practice this. If a person says something you don't like, you may want to end the relationship. If someone criticizes something you have done, you may say something rude back. If you can't listen to another, this means you aren't ready for love, and you may never be ready for love. If you can't be 100% truthful to a person then it is not true love. Someone that loves you, will already know they are not perfect, and will want to please you to. Someone that gets more wiser and grows up, is someone that listens to what others think their flaws are. You can never be perfect, you will always make mistakes but having someone there with you to help you become a better person is a great thing. You can not grow up and mature as fast by yourself, as with a friend or a true love.

When are you starting to date someone, make sure it is close to what you are looking for. It's much easier to change a truck into a car, then trying to change a boat into an airplane. Don't think that just because you love someone, you will be able to change them into something that is not them. Don't look it as a challenge that you can reform this person. It will be a sad mistake. Find someone that is close to what you already want, and they will be most suitable for you. You probably aren't exactly what they want either, but with good listening and time, you can become a masterpiece to them.

Getting to Know a Person

If I were to do a survey, I'm sure that the older people are, the quicker they are likely to get married. When people are younger, they realize they have plenty of time to find the right person. When you are older, your concerns and fears are different then when you are young. You think that you have less time to find someone, because of your age. But there should not be such a reason to get married, because as most people will agree, time seems to fly by, when you are alone, but when you have what you want, time starts to go much more slowly.

Nobody knows how unique you are, more than yourself. If you do not express yourself, and tell others about yourself, nobody will know you. Only you know what is special about yourself, and your desires in life. Only you knows what type of person you are looking for as a life partner. There is something to be said about judging a book by it's cover. Perhaps the cover is a good sales tactic, and many will read the book, and it may become a best seller. You may think it's your favorite book. But without reading the other books, you may have made the wrong decision. However, because we are all limited in time, we can not read every book on the shelf. I believe book reading can be compared to dating. You may want to read only the first 5 pages of many different books, and decide which book you want to continue to read. If the average amount of time spent reading a book, is two weeks, should you know within two weeks if you want to marry this person? While books and people can be similar, they have their differences. Now imagine a book that is 10,000 pages long. You read the first 1,000 pages and realize you do not wish to continue to read the book, or you may be really interested in this book and choose to continue to read the whole book. Even when you are prepared to make a commitment of marriage, you must realize there is a lot more of the book you have not read. If you want to compare a person to a book, you must think of it as a book that will never end.

When you are getting to know a person, sometimes it's better to get to know a person outside of the dating realm. Let's think of the most common questions when you are on your first date. They are redundant questions that they have been asked so many times, it's almost boring to them. What do you do? Where do you live? Where did you grow up? It's similar to a job interview. Dating should not be like getting a job, it should be fun, and conversation should flow naturally that you haven't pre-planned. If you don't already know enough about the person, maybe you should not go on a date. Most people don't even like questions, they would prefer to tell you about themselves when they want, and how they want. If you can go on a date and not ask any questions, that might be a good date. But it is likely not to happen. It's good to have friends, and an activity you enjoy. When you aren't focused on getting to know a person, is when you feel most comfortable getting to know a person.

Quest for Love

Do you find yourself treating your job, more seriously than your quest for love? When someone is searching for a job, usually they go with the first job that they think is right for them. They tend to ignore other possibilities and are usually happy with their current work. Do people look at love the same way? While some people may marry the first person that they have a successful relationship, others are more determined to find the best suitable person. If you are a good person, is should be easy to have many successful relationships if you put in the effort. If you are dating someone for a while, you start to love that person, and to see that other person with another, might make you jealous. Although jealousy should not be a reason for unity for life. It should be an accepted fact that there will be thousands of people that you will get along with, and thousands of people you won't. How many people know only 10 people and have ended up marrying one of them. I'm sure the numbers would surprise you.

Many people are afraid to give their life to another person. They want to be totally sure they are making the right decision and there is good reason for this. There is a defense mechanism used. I'll explain it through A, B, C & D. You are A. You like B, and B likes C, and C likes D, and D likes you. Nobody ends up getting in a relationship and nobody gets hurt. As you get older you realize that a kiss, or a dating relationship can turn into something greater. When you are younger, it's much more innocent relationships. If you start dating someone as a commitment and you aren't head over heals for the person. It may be 1 or 2 years before you can pursue your love. Some people have trouble dating because they are worried about this. They don't want to get involved in a serious relationship and would rather be friends with people, until they find love. How do people see love happening, and what is there expectations. Do they think it will be magical experience and just 'know' it's the right person? Are they looking for something specific? Maybe with the right questions you will know your date better, and will be able to compare and find the right person for your personality.

Old Friends & New Friends

Take time for old friends as well. If you have contacts of some old friends, take some time out of your day to write them an email or call them and have a nice conversation. Friends are not so easy to make. Learn to appreciate your old friends as much as a possible new friend you meet and your future love. Your old friends will help bring out the real you. Friends that have known you your whole life, and have grown up with. You will remember many memories from keeping in contact with them. Perhaps even an old friend might be your true love, and you don't even know it, until you have re-kindled your friendship. Although the most important reason for contacting old friends, is because friends are so rare as jewels, that you must not loose them, like you have never met them. When they became a friend to you, they became part of your life, you can't ignore that. They are great friends for talking about life with, because they are most likely going through the same things as you. They are good listeners because even though you may not spoken to them for such a long time, they never forgot you.

If you worry all the time about finding a date or finding someone for life, that might not be a good thing. Whether you just got out of a relationship or have been single for too long. It's time now to start looking again. You can meet someone really special if you just put in a little effort. There is a little bit of education that goes in with trying to set up a date which I will try to explain later. But I believe there is a lot of luck when it comes to finding a new friend, or someone that you really enjoy being around. When you worry about finding a person instantly, not only will it not happen, but others will see this as desperation and the chances of you finding someone very compatible will be slim. You are more likely to find someone else that is desperate to be loved. You may be two totally different people, and while you could have been good friends, it was just not meant for you two to be together. Just because you are Ready to get married doesn't mean that you rush into marriage with someone else also looking for marriage.

Great Places to Hang Out

You may know a place to hang out at. Such as a coffee shop. You sit there idle and read a book or something. Your dream women is sitting next to you, but you don't know what to say to her. You don't want to rudely introduce yourself, knowing that she may be working on something important. You may think to yourself, here is my chance, if I don't say anything, in a few hours she may leave, and I will have lost my chance on going on a date with someone that could have been very interesting. So you sit there and try to read your book, but keep repeating the same sentences thinking to yourself about the woman that came and sat next to you.

Chances are, if you were at work, or in college, sitting next to someone, you would do the same thing, sit there and be quiet, and eventually someone would speak. You are hoping it won't have to be you. But the facts of life, is that people can not continue to be quiet forever. Eventually they say something. I have a friend that got married to someone he worked with, and chances are, he did not ask her out on the very first day of working with her. Even if you are in a big city in a coffee shop, chances are, you will see that person again.

Most people's lives are generally the same. If they are already there at a coffee shop, chances are they will come back. Especially if they liked you a little bit, then the chances of them coming back are better than not. So most people that become true friends were not so friendly in the beginning, but stuck around, regardless of the lack of communication. You don't have to be a social butterfly to make friends, but you have be make an effort and be around people. The longer you stay quiet, the more people wonder about you. Maybe you will see them the next day or in a few days either way, they will remember you.

Meeting People

There are people that have a good working environment for idleness and to get to know someone that they feel is special. Others do not have such a luxury. If you already have a job, that seems like a pleasant place to meet people than you are one of the lucky few. I am not sure so many of those places exist. Many people also get married out of high school or college. For most, right out of high school it too young to dedicate your life to someone. People want to explore the world, and experience more people in their life, before tying the knot. They want to make sure they are making the right decision. There are many people that seriously don't look for love until they feel they are independent financially. You can feel love in college or high school, but how will you support yourself is your biggest fear. So much thought goes into when you are ready to get married, and who you marry.

If you have a job that makes it hard meeting people, and you spend most of your time at home watching tv, you are not making much effort to be happy with another. The first step, would be to get out of your house, find a new hobby or another place to hang out at, that is not your home. I do not know what type of job you have, how much free time you have, and what your desires are for love. Finding the right person for you, may be of little importance to you. It may be the most important thing you can possibly think of at the moment. I do not know my audience. For me, it seems quite important. This is why I continue to discuss it.

There is a reason why not everyone gets married easily. There is a reason why there is a divorce rate higher than 50%. There must be a lot of successful people out there, wondering why they have not found anyone. They think because they are successful, that it would be easy to find a person. If only they spent an equal amount of time working, as to finding someone special for them. But I should not be judging anyone for how they live, I can only speak my mind and try to understand this as much as the next person.

How TV Influences Who We Date

TV and other media has changed the way the public thinks of men and women. Women get dressed up to go out, because they want guys to talk to them. They think the better they look, the more likely they will meet an interesting guy. Women believe this is what men want because of TV. We see women as wanting a guy with a sense of humor and someone that is nice and caring. This is what we see on TV. However, men and women are very similar. But people are not similar. Everybody is completely different. Everyone has problems. Women don't have to dress up nice to impress men. Men are impressed with women whether they have an expensive dress on or not. When a woman dresses up extremely sexy, and at the end of the night, wonders why she was not talked too? Why she did not meet any guys? Dressing up nice, does not give a person a personality, and if you are quiet, nobody knows who you are. If you out dress everyone else, it may also become intimidating for some people. Not everyone has confidence, and not everyone is a social butterfly. But if you judge people by how they dress, they you are guilty of judging a person by their cover. I personally like seeing women dress up nice, I am not trying to say it's wrong, but I am only saying that you don't have too, to get our attention. Guys are people too, most of them.

I forget what the statistic it is about how many hours a day people watch TV. However I know that many people sit around and watch a lot of TV in their free time. The single people that do this are looking for love, but not today. The internet and TV has become our entertainment as a society. I'm not saying it has affected the entire world, but I can see it affects many people. If they are looking for love, obviously they aren't hoping they will come knocking on their door, because it usually won't happen. Some people will sit around all day on their computer or watch tv, and then at night go out with their friends to a bar. Perhaps going out to bars and meeting people works for some people. It can be very fast paced at a bar, giving you only a few hours to talk with someone, and get to know them. They may want to go out on a date later, you may be interested in meeting up with that person. It may work out for some people to live life like this. But is there a reason that many people find their love in work or at college? Maybe because they have given so much of their time at those places, and learned to trust another person. If I were to take a survey, I bet that many people would have met their love at work, or at school. Is it from this idleness that we find love when we aren't even searching.

What's your Type?

What type of qualities is most important to you, when it comes to dating. Those qualities should be in every date that you go out with. There are thousands of people out there, and some may be similar to you and others may be different. Being different and the same does not mean one is good or bad. But you must be good to yourself, and realize that the qualities that you seek, are important to you. Only you will be with that person for life, with that white picket fence. So before you start looking for someone, think to yourself what qualities you are looking for. If you are looking for a book on poetry, it would be a waste of time for you to go into the history section and try to find a poetry book? Before you know it the store will be closed, and you will be kicked out, without knowing which poetry book you wanted to get. Be fair to yourself, and choose an atmosphere that you will be more likely to meet the person of your dreams. Do what you enjoy, and you will be happy regardless if you find this person.

Finding love can not happen over night. First it takes the acceptance that there is someone out there for you. You are ready to get married. You are ready to put the time into finding someone for you. It won't be easy, but with proper care you can avoid complications. I'm not saying give up on having fun, and work seriously on trying to find a soul mate. You should try and make every moment of your life fun, if at all possible. But when people say I'm going out tonight with my friends just to have fun, this is not the whole truth. Unless they are all married, they are also hoping that they find their prince or princess.

Being Friends with the Opposite Sex

Being friends with the opposite sex raises your self-esteem. People will see that you are confident and you can meet a lot more friends this way. If you go out as a group of guys, you may give the impression to women, that you are unable to have girl friends, and that you are looking for a good time, without much conversation.

Maybe instead of dating different people, you might enjoy having a best friend of the opposite sex that you can go out with and meet friends. You should try and keep this friendship, because these friends are hard to find. If you end up spending a lot of time with this person, you may grow fond of this person. If you can both agree to remain friends, you can go out and have a good time, and meet a lot of more friends.

This may not be how it is, but it's impression you may give to some. There are many people that go out to bars, as a group of girls and as a group of guys. I am not saying this is wrong, but if you are trying to meet people of the opposite sex then you may have better luck with a like minded friend of the opposite sex.

Dating & Bars

Let's say a group of people go into a bar, and one of the girl's meets a guy there. She may have arranged a date with him and now is not talking to any more guys for the rest of the night. She may feel like she's found the one, or she doesn't want to give the wrong impression to other people. If he was to get jealous that she was talking to another guy, maybe that is a sign that he is insecure. People need to think about other people's feelings, but also think about themselves. She must remember that nobody is going to rescue her friend her life, and she has an important decision to make for her life. She must find the right guy and get married, and she should not stop meeting people simply because she is dating someone. If your goal is to get married when you are 30, and you have 4 boyfriends that last 2 years each, you may have been single for 1 year. If you did not socialize with guys when you had a boyfriend, you are limiting your time to find this right person. You can be dating someone and enjoy their company, and you can also enjoy someone else's company.

If you have someone you are serious about, you should not box each other up in a cave so that nobody can talk to each of you. You must both feel comfortable around other people, out in public, and if either one of you end up going off with someone else, that is something you must be prepared for. If your relationship is rocky, and you start to realize that you may enjoy other people's company more, then you should not keep dating this person to be nice. When you are searching for the right person, you have to be prepared to get your feelings hurt, and hurt other people's feelings. It's better that you break up with a person after a few weeks, then after a few years of marriage. Every potential date could turn into a marriage. You only will go on so many dates in your life, and as you must pick your friends wisely, you should also pick your dates wisely. Staying active and having friends is important.

Are you Budgeting Time for Dating?

If you are interested in finding someone, then you must budget your time. If you end up going home after work everyday, then chances are you will end up with someone at work. If you do not make time, for people to get to know you, then nobody will get to know you. You must learn to make a budget for yourself with your free time. If you are lazy trying to find someone, you may find someone that is also this lazy. Maybe it will work out or maybe it won't. Maybe later in life, you will wonder why you weren't more social. To make friends, it's good to become part of the society. If you are a college student, then you are likely to have a lot of friends while in school. You will learn to trust your peers, and friendships will naturally happen. As a student you should treat your education as a job. It's one of the most social jobs you could find. You become a part of a large community.

If you are not in school and already have a job, you could either have a social job or not. Having a desk job is not the best for being social. When you work at a public place, then you will most likely make a lot of friends. If you have a social job, you may not have the need to go out to social places. If you have a job which you are not social, you will more likely feel the need to go out and have a good time. Whether you are working in a public place or have a desk job, it's always a good idea to expand your social circle. People that have favorite restaurants usually have not been to all the diners, and have made a decision based on what they have experienced. To be more certain of your selective of your spouse, you must make an attempt to look around for the benefit of yourself and the benefit of them. If you have only a few friends, even your best friends can get boring, but if you have enough people to hang out with them you will never be bored.

You have to decide how important it is for you to find your best possible spouse. Some people will date many different people, and that does not make them any worse than anybody else. If they find someone better for themselves, then they should start dating someone else. You should be kind to people, and always tell them the truth. But you should not stay with a person, because you don't want to hurt their feelings. If you find someone else that you like better, you should be good to yourself and try to find your best match. I once heard someone say, the hardest part about keeping a girlfriend, is because I always find someone better. There are not many people that are have such an approach to dating, but they should. They should not stay with a person if they like someone else better. You may date someone for a week, and realize they are a really nice person, but you find someone that you think is a better match for you. This doesn't make anyone a 'better person' but there is such a thing as a better match, or we could just pick straws out of a hat, and everyone would be happy.

You can make a pie chart, and split up your day how you would like to live your life. This is not to say you would want to live everyday the same, but there are certain things you may enjoy doing each day. You could split up your weekends a bit differently. A few options would be spending time on the internet, watching TV, working out, reading a book, getting coffee, going out, going to dinner, work, spending time with friends, spending time alone, going to the beach, skiing, and many other activities. There is a lot more you can get done in a single day than you may be aware of.

Soulmate - Fact or Fiction

I know many people that are already married, or divorced, or single. It doesn't help me much with my own quest to know these people. Just as a job would be scary to get, getting married and falling in love would be scary for people. I am sure there are many people that never get married and is it by chance that they don't get married. When someone gets a divorce is it by chance that they don't ever get re-married. There is a reason behind why people don't get re-married or even married in the first place. Is it because they don't want to ever get married? Some people may say this, but it seems hardly believable. I remember talking to an older guy about this, and he was divorced. First he said he doesn't want to get married again, and then he later stated that he would get married if he met the right person. He may be setting his expectations too high. Meeting the "right person" might just be a figment of his imagination. If he would have said, I would like to get married when I meet a nice woman, this would be a more easy feat to accomplish. If you never worked in your life, and you kept saying to your family, I'll get a job, when I find the right job, years passes by, and you never find the Right job. Surely you would be out on the streets before that.

By chance or by love. This is a very difficult topic to right, and explain it as a science, but it is not like a science at all. When you are around someone you like, and they like you, and you both get feeling that you like each other, it's hard to describe this feeling.

There is many people that believe there is just one person for you. There are other people that believe there are many people that may qualify for a long lasting love. What are the chances of finding your "soul mate" with millions of people. You may think it will take a life time to find this person. You may give up hope, and think that it's a quite impossible goal. Only through a miracle will you meet this person. You may find yourself settling for someone that you get along with enough, but does not qualify as true love.

I'm not sure what I believe yet. I would like to believe that there is a soul mate for each person. That a miracle will happen and I will find this person. If you are ready in life to get married, and are seeking this, you must look at everyone as friends, and forget about looking for this one person. For truly, it will take a miracle to meet this person. If you go through life, and are never social to anyone, it will be extremely difficult to come across this person.

You could also believe that there are many people out there that could make you happy. It's just a matter of time, before you run into one of them. After all, there are many people out there that would make great friends, that are similar to you and are extremely nice people. It's really up to you, how you look at it.

I'm Feeling Lucky

Do you think you will end up with a person by chance, or do you think it was meant to be. Do you think that there is more than one person for you or do you think that there is just one person. When you are trying to find someone to marry and your life long partner you must consider what you are looking for. Do you want to marry a person that you happen to run into or do you want to be sure that they are the right person. I'm sure there is a plentiful amount of people that would be interested in you, and a plentiful amount of people you would be interested in. The question is how many of them will you meet. Should we compare different people and find a person that is most similar to yourself. There are many questions regarding finding the right person and the unlimited amount of options that comes into that decision. Usually a couple will get together in a relationship when both admit their love to each other. If you are currently single and dating, is it possible to have feelings for more than one person? I think yes.

It's easy to like many people each for unique qualities that each have. This is when you must make a separation of love and friendship. Is it possible to have many friends that are female when you are currently dating a woman? While it may be uncommon for this, I think you should, to have a healthy relationship with the one you are dating. You don't necessarily want to compare people, because everyone has unique characteristics, and everyone has their share of problems and flaws. If you are planning to get married, you must be fair to the one you are dating, by making sure they are the right person for you. The only way you can tell is by being friends with others, and allowing friendships to grow outside of your current relationship. If there was but 2 people on earth, it would be very easy to decide who to marry. But to be fair to yourself, and to be fair to the one you are dating, it's wise to have multiple friendships with others of the opposite sex. This way, if there is any doubt that you are not with the right person, you can save yourself time and trouble by breaking it off sooner.

I'm sure a lot of people start dating by chance, because there is no rules to how you meet a person, and you never know who will enter your life at any time. Another word I could use instead of chance could be luck, or divine intervention. Of course, once you are married you would like to think that you found your true love out of the millions of people, and you got really lucky finding this person. But if there is only one person for each person, the odds of everyone meeting the right person, would be very unlikely. In fact, the chances of 1 person finding the right person would seem almost impossible. If there was only one person for you, and you both waited for each other, only with the help of God could you find each other. I'm not even sure it says in the bible that there is only 1 person for each person. Does this mean that you could be happy with anyone? Certainly not. If there is more than one person that you get along with, and perhaps could love, does this mean that you would cheat on your spouse, it happens, but it is not right. When you have found someone that you love, you should accept that they are not the only person that you might be attracted too, and perhaps fall in love with. This is when you need to learn self discipline. When you are married, it takes a long time for love to grow, and why should you start over when you have begun to love someone.

Rules to Dating

There are many books that have certain rules to dating. How men and women think differently, and how they each should act. I do not believe men and women are much different. I do not think there should be such a set of rules. People worry too much about how they should act, and how to impress people, that they loose their selves in the process. Everyone is different, and if everyone was the same, it would be a boring world. If you think you are different then most people, then you are correct. Nobody is like you. We are all diamonds and if we coat ourselves with other things, we start to loose our shine. You may be at a public place, and worry about what others think of you. I have the opinion that some people are worried about the exact same thing. They are not thinking about you, they are thinking about themselves. There is nothing better about you, then being yourself.

If more people were interested in making friends, then finding a potential spouse, then it would be easier to find the right person for you. Friends are much more difficult to make, then finding someone to love. However, the more friends you have, the better chances of finding someone that is truly right for you. But if you are more interested in satisfying your own needs with a partner, it may not work out as well as you would have liked. If you think because you are a guy, you are expected to ask a girl out you meet at a bar, you may be putting more stress on yourself then is needed. If you just go out and get to know them people that are there, and possibly ask someone out to coffee or something that is more of a friend starter, then asking on a dinner date. It might work out better than you think. If you ask a girl you meet at a bar, out to dinner, they may think that you do this all the time. They may think that you want a relationship before a friendship. You should focus more on the friendship and not try to claim property without checking out the inside. Nobody buys a house, that they haven't looked inside. Everyone wants to feel like they are special. Which is true. For someone to feel they are special, you must first get to know them. They must see all your unique qualities and like your personality.

I am not trying to make up rules, like you can't ask a girl out to dinner that you meet. You can. But having a good conversation before you request this, is very important. They don't want you to ask them out, just because you are attracted to them. Maybe saying something like, I'd like to see you again sometime, what do you like to do? This would be a better way of starting a friendship with a person. It's also important to pick a public place to hang out. If you start a friendship in your own home, things may develop faster, and you never have taken enough time to genuinely get to know each other.

Prettier From a Distance

Sometimes I'll watch a movie and pick up a line I really liked. Last night I was watching movie, and a woman said, "people are stars, until you get to know them, and realize they are human". Most people that have crushes on people, usually don't know their crush that well, or they would realize they are just as human as they are. Usually it's the mysterious person that is liked more by many, because nobody really knows them. Once people knew them, they would realize their faults, and wonder and say, wow, they are just like me. Not any better. There is no good advice I can give on this, but that everyone looks prettier from a distance. You have really get to know a person, and make sure they are right match for you before you start dating them. Otherwise you will not be as happy as you could have been. Can't say wow, I went out with this one person one night, and we really hit it off, and now I'm in love. That just can't happen. Everyone is different, but humans think alike. Everyone is in good mood somethings, and everyone has their times when they are not feeling so good. Usually when person doesn't feel so good, it's because they don't feel loved. When person feels loved they instantly cheer up and are really happy. So be happy and loving and be really funny and everyone will like you, and return the love.

Sometimes you can be out in public talk to a nice girl, and have good conversation and ask her out to lunch, and if she says no, then it will be ok, because you don't plan to run into her everyday, if she turns you down. She also won't feel bad by saying no, if she is not interested, because chances of you two running into eachother again are rare. On the flip side, maybe you like someone in a class, but you don't want ask her to do something, because you are worried she might say no, then later, she might decide she likes you, but your feelings were hurt, and you aren't interested anymore. Same type of thing at work. So if you are interested in someone that you will see everyday, ask them to do something stupid. Like hey, I need go to run an errand and buy socks, do you want to go with me. Then if she says no, I don't want buy socks with you, maybe she won't want to go because she has other things to do, then buy socks with you. But if she really is interested in you, then she'll say, ummm, well, I guess. Things won't feel uncomfortable, and you will get know her better without feeling ackward.

As you grow up, your life changes, your environment changes. You may feel somewhat lost. Nobody is telling you where you have to be or what you have to do. You may feel more free then ever, but more lost at the same time. It's obviously more difficult to make friends when you are not with a group of people you enjoy their company and are all working on the same thing. You may picture that your life would turn out much differently and you would have so many friends when you grew close to your 30s. After having so many friends in college or high school, you may feel like now you don't have many friends. It is comparable to having a lot of money, and then seeing that you don't make as much money as you used to make. It is natural as you grow older to have fewer friends if you are comparing your life to previously. Friends are very important to being happy, you can't just be happy with yourself. If you find yourself wondering why you don't have so many friends, then maybe you should start talking to people. Everyone has time for at least one more friend. Everyone goes from having many friends to less friends. It's very common. If you make no effort to become friends with anyone, then they will just think that you have enough friends, and don't need anyone to make yourself happy. If you are a friendly person and talk to everyone, then chances are you will make a lot of friends.

How to Be Happy

There is much I've read about you have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else. While that may have a little truth too it, I disagree with the point. It reminds me of an episode I watched on TV, with a kid gets his own amusement park, and he wouldn't let anyone in it. He got it for himself, and he kept riding the rides by himself, and was surprisingly happy. Then he realized he had bills to pay so he started to let a few people in it. The point I want to make about this, is that you can not make yourself happy. No matter where you are in life, you still need others to be happy. People that are looking for a relationship, may just need a good friend. No matter how good your life is, you can not be happy by yourself. You must let other people in your life. Without the companionship of others, your life may become meaningless. When you do not have friends or a partner, you can not make yourself happy. It's other people's jobs to make you happy.

You can not do it alone. You can go shopping by yourself, and think it will make you happy, but at the end of the day, you are not any happier than you were before. Sharing your life with someone else will help you become more happy. There is no amount of success that can bring happiness unless you have people to share your life with. If you are alone, and looking for a relationship, you should first find another person to spend your time with. It's not easy to meet new people, there are many fears people have with meeting new people. No matter what things you have in your life, it will mean nothing to you, without good friends. If you are a good person, and you wonder why life is not fun anymore, look into meeting friends. When you move to a new location, you may have to make friends. If your work permits you to make friends at work, it may be ok. When you are single, most of your friends may be single friends. When you are married most of your friends may be married. There should be no reason for this, when all people are the same. Even married people need good friends.

It may take some time to find good friends, you have to choose your friends wisely. You want to select friends that you enjoy their company of course. When you are amongst a community of people friends are so easy to make. I've even heard from adults, that when they have children in school, making friends seems quite easy. They meet the children's friends parents. When the children are out of school, they start to loose these friends. They don't communicate with them anymore, and start to wonder why they don't have any friends anymore. Same with college students and high school students, as a student, you run into friends everyday. But when you graduate you wonder why you don't have friends anymore. Your friends at work may be too old for you. You may wonder what happened to your life. All your friends have scattered all over the world, and you don't know what happened. It came such as a shock to you. You never knew you would find yourself with such few friends and never realized how difficult it is to make friends anymore.

Finding someone you love

Let's talk about finding someone you love. This is where I disagree with most of mankind. I don't think dating is good unless she is your girlfriend. My first girlfriend I was always around other people until she was my girlfriend. Afterall, what can you not say, infront of other people. Anyway, that sums up me. However if you don't call it a date, then it's fine. Dinner, Movies, whatever is fine. I just don't think it should be called a "date" unless you are dating. Also- It's probably best not to be alone with someone at all, in my opinion, unless you are really good friends, and out in public place.

Is everyone selfish and just thinking about themselves? Do they want to hook up everynight? Perhaps so. Why do guys not have many guy friends, and why do girls not have many girl friends? Is it insecurity or is it because they are afraid their girl friends, or whatever, will try and steal their guy, or tell them something they don't want your guy friend to know? Is everything a competition? When will people realize that there is no competition and everyone should stop sleeping around. When girls are around other girls, they aren't afraid to tell eachother they want sex with some guy. But when they are with other guys, they tell them they don't want to get hurt. Well. It's whatever. Lot of insecurity will make someone afraid to be friends with lots of people, and just have lots of sex mates. Anyway, that's my theory.

When you are interested in buying a house or a car. You are there to purchase one, no matter how persistant the salesmen is. Everyone knows that salesmen are very annoying. They say ohh can't get a better deal anywhere else, ect. Nobody likes a salesmen. If you made up your mind you are gonna get a car at a particular dealership, the salesmen should just let you decide yourself what you want, and stop with the persistance, and just relax. Salesmen that do not talk are the best salesmen. If you have a question, that's what they are there for. They are not there to be annoying. So if you are getting to know someone, don't try and sell yourself, just be yourself. If something doesn't work out, guess who they are going to blame? The salesmen. But if you didn't sell yourself and were just yourself, they have nobody to blame.

Making Friends

Every person is different, knows different things, acts differently, does different things, and you wonder how we all get along? Well, some of us do get along with everyone, some people don't get along with many people. Some people need encouragement and some people need advice and some people need compliments. Everyone enjoys all of those things. If you want to be a realtor, and someone says that you could be a realtor. Chances are, you might just be a realtor. Everyone just needs a little encouragement. Ok great, all things you already know.

Let's talk about work and fun. If you are in college and you are studying that's work. If you are writing, that's work. If you are talking with someone, that's work. You may think, how is hanging out with my friends work? Well you are talking, when you could be writing, and talking and writing are the same things. You are also learning, everyone can help you with different kinds of advice. You can't really control other people, you can only try and control yourself. You can give the best advice you can for your friends, but that's about it.

In college everyone has friends. They are surrounded by friends all the time. It's so easy to make friends in college. College is FOR friends and degrees of course. When you are out of college, you have find other ways to make friends. You can't really meet friends in your work, well, you CAN, but you generally want meet friends of the opposite sex that you may want to marry. So then you have find other places to hang out at. Such as starbucks or the beach or wherever is cool place for you to spend your time with others. You can meet close friends at work or whever you want to meet them. Also when you go out in public, it's much easier to meet people if you already have a friend or friends with you. Although you can meet people alone, it just takes more time.