Shyness

Recently someone asked me to write a post about overcoming shyness. However I won't do that because I think shyness is a quality. In fact, I wish more people would be more shy. There is an old saying, wisdom is silent. I'm not saying to be completely quiet, but being careful about who you talk with is not a bad thing. Many animals are naturally shy, and same with people.

Being shy doesn't mean you don't talk or ignore people. It simply means you have enough confidence not to be the center of attention, and happy being yourself. It's not true that the more people you talk too, ex., at a bar, the more chances you have of meeting someone. You would have a better chance if you talked to just a couple people. Let's say I am out at a place and I see a girl talking to every guy, and she knows everyone. Well, I don't think I would have a chance, and I probably wouldn't bother.

Also remember that generally people are a lot more shy when they are alone, and a lot less shy when they are around friends. Now, for the sake of the person that asked how to overcome shyness. Well, first you need realize that over talking is not the answer. Just be nice. Say something that makes them feel good. Say I like your hair, or you look nice today, or anything that's a compliment is a good way to start a conversation. If someone complimented you, you would gain confidence that the person might be interested in you.

So instead of trying to overcome shyness, just stay shy. As I said before, it's not a bad quality. Basically if you are really outgoing naturally, then be natural. If you are shy naturally, stay shy. Everyone is different, and there is nothing wrong with it. So next time you see someone shy, don't think they lack confidence, it just means they have a natural instinct to be shy.