If you ask a girl, they will most likely tell you they want a boyfriend, but don't need one. However, if you ask a guy, they will more than likely say they need a girlfriend, instead of want a girlfriend. A quick search at google confirms this:
279,000 pages for "i want a boyfriend"
52,300 pages for "i need a boyfriend"
23,000 pages for "i want a girlfriend"
47,800 pages for "i need a girlfriend"
About women, we can learn that women are more vocal than men in admitting they desire a relationship. Women being about 5X more likely to admit this. We can also see that women appear not to need a boyfriend, but simply want one. More than 5 times as many women 'want' and not 'need'.
About men, we can see they are far less vocal in admitting that they want or need a girlfriend. It also seems that it's more likely they appear to need one, instead of just want. More than 2 times as many 'need' and not 'want'.
Theories:
1) Men may actually need a girlfriend.
2) Women actually don't need, but want a boyfriend.
3) Women don't say "need" in fear of acting needy.
4) Men are more needy than women.
5) Guys may have trouble admitting that they want or need a relationship.
6) More women want relationships then men.
While men and women seem to express themselves differently, it's more than likely, and as the song goes, all we need is love.
451,000 pages for "i need love"
Thursday, April 5, 2007
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The theory is right...for the women part. women are much more vulnerable from being lonely because we rely more on the emotional support of others than men. and that's what make us want a boyfriend more. maybe it's the monthly hormone rage in us that makes it the way it is. i don't really know. but either way, you're theory is correct.
Great post by the way!
Great article! try googling "i want a girl to have sex with" vs. "i want a guy to have sex with"- 21k vs 15k respectively!
then "i need a girl...." vs. "i need a guy..." 17k vs. 12k....
seems like many guys looking for sex... But don't kill us (guys) all.... some of us, many of us, are truly looking for that special someone.
Using that method is very irrelevant. Try searching google as for today and the results will be the other way around.
Sorry, but I don't think it can be used to pull out such conclusion.
Theories:
2) Women actually don't need, but want a boyfriend.
My opinion:
The reason why women want a boyfriend is because the need one.
Like Marjie already said above, they are much more vulnerable from being lonely. Women have limitation when it comes to their age. As for men, they can get married even when they're 70 years old. Therefore, they are much in need of a male companion then men.
But then again, number 3 from your theory has already fixed the problem :) - Sometimes they're just too scared of being too needy. Although the feeling is normal.
"Women have limitation when it comes to their age."
I find that statement to be rather obnoxious and evidence that we live in an unreasonably ageist society. It is just as easy to say that old men want young women, young men want young women, and older women are shit out of luck. Its an unfortunately situation and likely connected to unreasonable beauty standards and other criteria that leave older, successful, self-actualized women behind.
In fact, none of this is really verifiable.
Using a google search and negative interpretations of your experiences with women thus far have probably contributed to these bogus hypotheses (a theory is something that is actually supported by substantial evidence. Your thoughts are just unverified opinions.)
We're all wrong. Just go live your life and be yourself.
Uhhhh...how do you know there arent guys on google that want a boyfriend or girls that want a girlfriend? where do you separate those groups...homosexuals exist on google too i think. i wish i even had a girl that was a friend, let alone a girlfriend. F### my life.
your theory is right about women, woman wants more than man.
"Using that method is very irrelevant. Try searching google as for today and the results will be the other way around."
No if you understood Google search you'd know it's a good method. These stats have built over years and from week to week they will stay basically the same.
"seems like many guys looking for sex"
You know I think this is women projecting alot of the time more than everything else. If they convince men that they are just one-track emotion-less minds, then men will have no problem with engaging when women just give themselves up for sex easily.
I think your hypothesis are basically right. It would seem to me that women see men and boyfriends as more of an accessory (or object to borrow a phrase from the feminists).
Thus they want it as they want any other material goody - pair of shoes, cellphone etc.
But men are more needy and and feel that they not just want a girlfriend but genuinely need one to be complete as individuals.
It's pretty obvious, actually.
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