Many Reasons why Dating Sucks

As I listen to the tunes MTV is playing and look at the light above my table, I can't help but think about the past-time we call dating that we try so hard to achieve. If dating was so easy, there wouldn't be as many single people out there. Ok, stop, you may think to yourself that you want to stay single forever, well good for you. You do that, but most of us want to find someone that we can trust and be with, whether it's a girlfriend or something that we want to "marry". Some people will say to themselves that they will never want to get married, but there is a reason for this attitude. It's because dating sucks. It's hard work and it's hard to work it into our life. We try to work, we try to pay our bills, we try to do the little things that life requires, we have go get food and feed ourselves everyday. There are many reasons why being single and dating just sucks.

First of all dating sucks, because when you try, you get turned down. You say something nice and they think you are just trying to get in bed with them. They are lonely and you are lonely but they don't admit it, and have their friends to back up that claim. They don't seem to realize at that moment in time, that they will soon be by themselves again with their dog or cat again for the next consecutive month.

Let's say you find someone nice, and you go out with them, and you are spending time with them. You realize that there is a silence, well that's ok, if you are friends, but if you are just getting to know eachother you have think of something to say. So you start talking about your childhood or you talk about the hobbies that you enjoy, but they have no interest in them. Then you question, so what do you like to do? They say that they like to watch TV, or spend time at home, and you say, wow that sounds fun, but you don't know what say about TV, because what's to talk about TV? You think to yourself, what can I say to get myself back on track, but there is nothing.

You are at a bar, and you see a girl, and you go up and talk to her, and she starts talking to you for a minute, but then suddenly you gave her a bunch of confidence and she has left and and gone to talk to someone else. So you sit there at bar, and drink alone for a while hoping she'll come back, but she has already exchanged numbers with someone that has talked to her for 2 minutes, and now you don't want talk to her anymore, because you think it's unfair that you talked to her for like, 20 minutes, and now she is exchanging numbers with someone that she talked to for 2 minutes.

You are at starbucks, and sitting down, reading a book, and you glance over and start talking to a girl, and she seems interested, and you start a conversation. She enjoys the same things you do, and you enjoy the same things she does. You think you might have found the right person for you. You start talking about more intimate things, and you think you have found a great friendship. All of the sudden, her phone rings, and it's her boyfriend.

You are at a bar, and you see a nice girl comes up and flirts with you. You get along great and you have a wonderful conversation. You think you two are great for eachother. She starts telling you things about herself you wouldn't expect, you talk back and tell her things about yourself. She really likes you. You really like her. You are getting along great. You aren't the type of person to rush and ask for her phone number, because things are going so great already. Then one of her friends, maybe jealous friends, comes up and says that she and the rest of their friends are leaving and going to another bar, and they have leave now. So now you are all alone, and she's gone, and she feels pressured to leave with them. She mentions that she will see you again, but you know it's a big city, and that probably won't happen. So there you are again by yourself.

Here we go again, we are out someplace, and feel like we've struckout so many times, barely hanging in there, and a girl comes up to you. You seem to have no interest, because of all the other times. So you try and pretend that you are ok, and that you are happy that she's talking to you. She realizes that you are not happy, and starts asking what's wrong. Then you start complaining about how complicated dating is, because that's what's on your mind. At first she liked you, now she doesn't like you anymore because she thinks you complain too much. So she leaves you and says have a nice night.

I'm sure it's just as difficult for women to find a nice man, as it is for a guy to find a nice woman. It's just the most complicated subject ever. If you don't agree, then you better help me, because I think dating is the most complicated thing I've ever tried. I "think" I'm smart, and I think I can try and figure it out, but I've figured out that it just plain sucks. Dating sucks. So instead of this 'stop global warming' maybe we can try and say "stop these dating games" and let's try and all get along. The hippies had it right. Peace and love. Maybe we just need love eachother more.